I need help, I want her back.

[fumanchu182]

Okay here goes. I was involved with a girl and basically broke up with her cause the grass was greener on the other side. And yeah I fucked it up, cause the day after I knew I fucked up and wanted to go back, but being young I didn't know how.

So after summer is over we get back together for a little and shit and bam we screw on occasion, she claims it fucked with her head. I know it did at least with mine. Spring break comes she is with someone else. Bam, I lost out cause I woulda eventually straightened out.

So she is single again and I don't know what she is feeling and don't know what she wants in life. So I popped her an I'm stating the following:

Well kiki it is almost my bedtime, and I only have one question for you: What are you thinking right now? Cause I am thinking about my away message the other day and how I know I said things that only you or I should have seen, and no it wasn't embarassing, it was just me being true to my heart. All I wanna know is if there is a chance? I don't want an answer now, and I only want an answer when you are ready, but I want it in person, I want to stare into your eyes and tell you it is true this time. I ask your friends what your thinking and they all come up with the same answer, I don't know she doesn't really share, and I know something in this comsic universe ain't right (I know all about it). So I am asking you like I used to, back in the old days, the days that mattered what are you thinking? And will you ever take me back? Cause I am done playing games with my head, your head, my emotions and your emotions. And take your time on this one, cause this is the one that counts. I don't know what your thinking about someone else, and I don't care. All I know is that a day in time with me is worth more than an eternity somewhere else, and I know that cause you don't forget. And you don't forget the good times. Like I said I wan't you to take me back, but it is all up to you. Well good night and don't let the bedbugs bite.

Do you think I will win this war? I so don't wanna lose her a second time. Help me think of ways to get her back!

[GregWhelan]

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Mate, you cant blame her if she decides no,after your past behaviour - if you can convince her you've cleaned up your act you'll have a chance - good luck!

[Morgan]

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You blew it big style mate, you had ya chance now move on.

On the other hand, maybe she will take you back. If she does, will it work? It sounds like she is away at college, and you are stuck in NY, do you think there is enough trust between you? long distance releationships are very hard, after whats happened maybe it will prove too hard.

Good letter though, I think you have a chance, but it's going to be unbelievably hard. All the best.

[MJ]

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Now she`s single do you think you could give me her phone number? :?

[fumanchu182]

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You blew it big style mate, you had ya chance now move on.

On the other hand, maybe she will take you back. If she does, will it work? It sounds like she is away at college, and you are stuck in NY, do you think there is enough trust between you? long distance releationships are very hard, after whats happened maybe it will prove too hard.

Good letter though, I think you have a chance, but it's going to be unbelievably hard. All the best.

We both go to the same school. And work with eachother at work. And yeah I fucking blew it big time.

[Kamal]

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I'll tell you one thing fo sho... even if a woman doesn't show it, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. My honest recommendation to you is try and move on. Even if you have a chance, I wouldn't recommend taking it, it WILL come back later to haunt you, be it in a fight or through her actions (which you will have NOTHING to tell her about). She could start caring lesser (or at least seem like she is) about the relation, not be on time for meetings or even delay them, could be anything dude..... but you WILL start to notice these..... and the worst part.... these are nothing in comparison to what she possibly went through so you wont stand a chance at bringing it up.... nothing beats the world down better than a healthy doze of regret.....

suck it up and move on.....

-e-

[Cecil]

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I tell jew what jew do? cecil father tell him when only small boy. Jew get de liqour, any sort, no matter. Jew drink until you is good and well drunk. Jew ring this girl, jew say "why you leave me baby? I was dare for you." Den jew cry a bit, not too much, juz a little. Den you say "Well maybe I don't want you anymore baby, maybe you not the shit, like jew tink jew is," and den jew hang up de phone.

[fumanchu182]

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I tell jew what jew do? cecil father tell him when only small boy. Jew get de liqour, any sort, no matter. Jew drink until you is good and well drunk. Jew ring this girl, jew say "why you leave me baby? I was dare for you." Den jew cry a bit, not too much, juz a little. Den you say "Well maybe I don't want you anymore baby, maybe you not the shit, like jew tink jew is," and den jew hang up de phone.

Problem with that is that I left her.

[Cecil]

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Cecil don't know what to say. Jew really screwed up on dis one. Maybe keep de alchohol remove de phone call.

[rewing3]

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Move on. Forget about the past and find some different. Like E said even if you do get back together with her this time. How long is it going to before she gets feed up you again. Yeah people change but she is always going to think about the time you fucked her over.

[Kamal]

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Yeah people change but she is always going to think about the time you fucked her over.

EXACTLY, people never forget an injury, that's what they call experience

-e-

[rewing3]

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^ Agreed.

[alexfish333]

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I can't believe someone said that email was well written-I thought it was cryptic and unfocused. Coming off of a relationship myself I can say one thing and its the best advice in the world yet its also the most impossible to actually put into effect. Don't let this bitch know you want her so bad-it only turns them off. If she thinks you don't need her or have better things to do and there is some part of her that is still interested then she will make you realize that in her own way. Other than that, bang the shit out of someone hotter than she is and that will dull the pain for a few moments before the emptiness returns...

[Steve Graham]

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^^ i agree with this post. Things ended for a reason, i know its cliche, but every thing DOES happen for a reason. Though you may not realise what it is just now, it will hit you in the future, maybe when you meet your next girlfriend.

I have been in relationships in the past where we broke up, got back, broke up got back.. and it never is the same as the 1st time. Goes along with you always want what you can't have.

You can't take it back now, but an email professing your undying love rarely ever comes off on the other end like you want it to. And letting her know you are asking her friends about her probably wasn't a good idea either. This is between you two. Tell her in person how you feel if you must, but now the ball is on her court, and you maybe setting yourself up to be let down in a big way. Go about your life mate, control what you can control.. the rest will fall into place.

peace

[qwerty2222]

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if you really want her back, dont play cool, make her understand that you want her, make that as clear as possible and that you are sorry for what happend in the past.that's the only way you can get her back.but its not only up to you, if u didnt mean much to her, you have good chances not to win this.
good luck, its a really shity situation, i've been there and fortunately for me it worked