a little legal advice needed

[cowardly dj]

OK this is embarassing but the urgency of needing to do something is there

I am moving out of the house I am living in. It is not happening as quickly as my ex wants it to. The first months rent, security deposit and things like that I need to save up are the hold up for at least three weeks so I can get a few paychecks. 2 days ago she came up to me and said I had to leave even if I have to sleep on the street or in my car (which btw will be the case since I am 2000 miles from home). I said no and she was not going to make me leave for at least 2 weeks minimum so I could save up money

I am not on the lease so this is her place (renting). I have lived here for three years and paid rent.

We got into an argument and it was heated and after she left I busted her fan and and end table she liked just to get back at her. Today she went to the court and got an order for me to be removed from the house. She used that and said she feels like she is in danger. There has never been any violence and there is no danger. Basically what she did was used the court because they have a tendency to protect the woman. The court gave the order without me having any say in it at all.

Here is where I need the advice and I need it by tomorrow afternoon. I need to know if anyone knows of something I can file to stop that and get the 3 weeks i need to save up enough to move out.

I am looking for anything at all. I am sure there is someone on this board who has gone through this with all the drug heads there are here . So come on ms'ers, a fellow ms'er is in need here. I am going to look on google but I do not know what I am looking for. But still I will search anyway.

Thanks for anything anyone comes up with in advance.

[MJDub]

Well that's certainly conduct unbecoming of a Messiah there Haysoos.

[Garrick]

i'm not a drug-head enough to say you are fucked man...... by resorting to destroying her property and NOT being on the house lease she has a right to kick you out. if she doesn't, her landlord definitely can.

i'm sorry to hear that... lord knows i've broke lots of glass and other shit from being pissed off, but you shouldn't have done that. she has evidence to prove that you are a psycho (just kidding ) and can file a restraining order and probably get it. in all honesty, find a friend and live with them. you'll do yourself a favor. you don't want a restraining order against you, which she could legally do if you refuse to leave. try reasoning with her... if she isn't a complete bitch, she would let you chill out for a couple weeks....... but for god's sake, lay off the drugs heysoos.

i hope it works out for ya.

[elerman777]

If your mail comes to her address that makes it your legal residence so she cannot kick you out. But you broke her property and the law is on her side (it always on woman's side) so get your ass to a motel before sh**t got out of control or she WILL get you arrested next time.

[Garrick]

If your mail comes to her address that makes it your legal residence so she cannot kick you out.

she may not be able to but her landlord can assuming you guys rent. the landlord didn't agree to him living there.

[sjaracz2]

I'll Say it your fucked

take what money you have and go home and leave here hanging

you may not want to leave her but you are going to have too

sorry but she will win

[neoee]

I'm not sure you can do anything at this point, legally that is. But maybe you should try to reason with her. Tell her that you just need 3 weeks. Do whatever you can to appeal to her human side. What about your other options? Any friends you can crash with for a few weeks? If you lived here I'd help you out.... maybe a local fellow MS'r would be willing to do the same? How about a loan from you parents, or from a bank or credit cards to get you by?

I'm not sure what else to tell ya but legally this is not a fight worth fighting nor is it one your gonna win at this point. Consider your other options. Sorry to hear your situation and good luck.

BTW is this the girl from the poo stories?

[FM]

Indeed. If you're not on the lease, then technically she can have you removed from the place, "paying" rent or not.

I would see if someone can spot you the loan, and since it's needed fast, parents or friends may be the best bet...then get them the money back.

Either way, I don't think, even if reasoning with her, you may win this battle.

[asdf_admin]

I am not on the lease so this is her place (renting)

that is the killer. there is not much you can do my friend in any legal aspect. she has the ball in the court, and since property damage was inflicted it made matters a little more urgent.

there still is a chance, but that is up to you and your own will. relationship or not, you were friends at one point in time, so there was/is a factor of respect. you can only ask her to drop the court order, or "delay" it. ask her if you can gather your things and find a place to live or stay. you will have no say, in what, how, when. but it may buy you a week perhaps less or more. i am not sure what has happened, nor do i care, that rests with you. i am looking at a logical perspective. you are a human as much as she is, and if you paid your rent for this month, you deserve at least a stay till the end, or your money back. that is a fair and honest thing to do. you must be civil, you do not have much control nor say. i am sorry to hear the bad news, and i hope you come to some peaceful truce so you can find a new home. i have been there, and done that.

you can always leave it as a last resort. i am not against you Cowardly, I am looking at option I know can/will work for you. What is broken is broken, but yet if you have respect for her, she should have some for you. good luck my friend. i wish you better days.

[picklemonkey]

dude, you should call people from work quick and find a place to stay. don't live out of your car, you surely have someone that will let you shack up with them for a month? I agree with everybody else, too... don't even try to reason with the bitch, get out of there before the shit gets out of control. If she's going to lie to the courts just to get you out of the house, there's no way you can talk her into anything.

Find someone at work, they'll understand. It's a situation, not a choice. Anybody you talk to should understand?

And yeah... if this is poo chick I definitely want to hear part 3.

Good luck heysoos

[cowardly dj]

OK first of all, it is not the chick from the poo stories, We are cool. It is my ex who had made a living arrangement with me because she neede the financial help.

Second the police came to the door last night and serverd me with (get this) a domestic viloence petition. I asked the officer what I could do and she said find a place to stay for the next 6 days and there is a court date set. She said women do this all the time. They get mad and go to the court and file this petition and as long as they say they feel in danger the judge will always issue it with no second thought. What a wonderful system we have here. I am sure it is abused by so many people it isnt even funny.

I absolutely hate to air my dirty laundry in a public forum but I thought that there might be a way to caounteract this petition. The only thing I can do is chill until tuesday morning and have my day in court. That is going to be good. What was she thinking filing a domestic violence petition? I hardly call me sitting in front of my computer ignoring her while she is yelling at me viloence That is just me though. I could be wrong.

Thanks guys and I guess since this is already a topic Iwill let you know how it turns out next week.

See you guys later, (for the next few days at least)

[Troklo]

Man hope everything turns out good for you!

But I mean after all you are "Heysoos Christo"....

[Pataky P]

OK!

[Garrick]

yeah, can't you make lightning strike her?

[ichrang]

If the reason she is kicking you out is because the relationship "is not moving fast enough for her".... Duct tape repair her fan and coffee table as a show of remorse. Tell her that the past few days events has caused you to realize that you cant bare to be away from her...that you are deeply in love, then get on one knee and propose to her. She should let you stay after that... This should give you enough time to find a new place and save up some money. then renig on the proposal.
Its a heartless act, I would never do it..... But it sounds like you might. Desperate times
Three years relationship and she wants you out in 2 days???? She must have a replacement lined up. If its been three years and the relationship hasn't gone anywhere.. maybe you should not waste her time and let her move on, as well as yourself