a little legal advice needed

[ubiqe]

OK first of all, it is not the chick from the poo stories, We are cool. It is my ex who had made a living arrangement with me because she neede the financial help.

And now she kicks you out when you have not enough to rent a new place...? No comment. It makes me think you don't have a chance reasoning with her...

[toasty]

In the short term, you're in a bad way. Those temporary restraining orders (I'm assuming that's what was entered) can go into effect without you really having any say -- the idea is that there is a need for immediate relief (for her) so it can issue without any notice to you, provided you get your day in court sooner rather than later.

From a domestic violence standpoint, all of the following makes zero difference:
1. You are not on the lease.
2. You get your mail there.

Hell, in most states, if you owned the place together, and she testified that she felt she was in danger, you'd be out on your ass, although temporarily. The real inquiry will ultimately be whether you are a threat to her right now.

My free advice to you at your hearing -- be calm, own up to making a mistake by breaking her shit, and resist the temptation to burst in and interrupt her when she's telling her side of the story -- you'll get your chance. Ultimately, things like this come down to a matter of credibility, and in an informal proceeding like what I suspect you're in for, with no lawyers present, presenting a level head and a rational state of mind is invaluable.

Best of luck, bro...

[cowardly dj]

If the reason she is kicking you out is because the relationship "is not moving fast enough for her".... Duct tape repair her fan and coffee table as a show of remorse. Tell her that the past few days events has caused you to realize that you cant bare to be away from her...that you are deeply in love, then get on one knee and propose to her. She should let you stay after that... This should give you enough time to find a new place and save up some money. then renig on the proposal.
Its a heartless act, I would never do it..... But it sounds like you might. Desperate times
Three years relationship and she wants you out in 2 days???? She must have a replacement lined up. If its been three years and the relationship hasn't gone anywhere.. maybe you should not waste her time and let her move on, as well as yourself

This is my ex-wife, not someone who I am trying to be with. We have been done since 1997. We have been living together the last 3 years because I am from Texas and she moved to Delaware after the divorce. I did not see my children for 4 years. I moved to Delaware so I could be near my children. Now I met a girl I want to be with and told my ex I was going to move out in a month when I saved up $1000 to do so. This made her mad and she said she was not going to wait a monthshe wanted me out NOW! I said she had no choice in the matter so she went out and did this. She is not the kind to think about long term consequences. She did not think that there was going to be a trial and my side of the story would be heard. She assumed it was going to be a one time thing and I was out of the house for good. She is not thinking about the long term possibility that if the judge simply does not tolerate such things as I did even though they were not an act of violence (it was an act of revenge or spite), if foiund guilty I will now have a criminal record. We have 2 dhildren together and if I have a record then I may have problems getting a job when I get out of shcool. This is not good for her because the amount of money I make will determine how much child support she gets. To me that is not a smart move on her part. You better believe that I am not giving her a penny more than ordered. I will just keep the nice things I get my kids at my house and they can have them when they come stay with me.

All day at work I kept thinking about this and laughed to myself. Two things I was laughing at. 1. How someone can go to a court house and claim violence against them and they fear more and the court will order someone out of the house with no opportunity to appeal. 2. How stupid she really is and what I was thinking 11 years ago when I married her.

More on this daytime TV drama soap show later.

[FM]

^^well said...no matter what story she may say or concoct up, don't stoop to that level, because you'll only make yourself look worse. State your case simply and let het be the one interrupting you.

And admit to what you did wrong as well; if anything at least it'll make the decision easier to render.

man, you should go on like Judge Judy or something

[nbpgt]

OK!

can you quote an ignored person? or can those of you who ignore pataky see this.. haha