Website for Grooms

[threehills]

During the planning of our recent wedding, I tried to be as active as possible. I didn't find many web resources directed towards the groom, so my wife and I have kicked around the idea of starting a site directed toward this aim, similar to theknot.com, but for guys. We were trying to think of website names and have come up with the two leading options and we wondering which you liked best. (see the above poll). Specifically, which one do you like better and would you be more likely to click on if you were planning in getting married?

Any other suggestions would also be appreciated. Also, do you think this idea is a total waste of time?

[AndyH]

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Not too sure about the names personally, but I think it is a v good idea. Women love weddings and think about them from the age of 5 or something. Men dont think of it till they have to and therefore prob often have no idea. You could have speech templates, proposal recommendations, techniques for wigglng out at the last minute, present ideas to request instead of ending up with 20 toasters, links to decent wedding djs and recommended tunes, ways to save money without being a percieved as a tight wad, shit loads of stuff really. Go for it I reckon....

[edjames]

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how about groomthespot.com

[AndyH]

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Grooms4u

Grooms r us

The Groom Factory

[TheMightyGreg]

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groommate.com

[tiddles]

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groomserver.com [gs]

[threehills]

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^

Some guy named Pataky has already registered it.

[thesightless]

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let her do it. all of it. my friend mike did little things for his wedding, and his wife laughed at him b/c she had to do it all over again. poor guy, it was damn funny though as his wife is a top gal and poked fun at him during every step

[threehills]

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let her do it. all of it. my friend mike did little things for his wedding, and his wife laughed at him b/c she had to do it all over again. poor guy, it was damn funny though as his wife is a top gal and poked fun at him during every step

Yeah, thats what I intially wanted to do, nothing. But she made me do some of it, and I found the more I got involved the more I was glad that I was doing it. I was clueless as to what I had to do though, I think it would just be useful to have a site that a groom can go to find out what exactly he is supposed to do, and what other stuff he can do to help. That way he won't have to wait for the woman to yell at him.

[thesightless]

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whatever she asks you to do, do it to the letter, and smile.

like i say everytime.... its her day, make sure every single possible thing is EXACTLY like she pictured it. no offense, but the groom dont matter. its all about her.

and dont make any decsions without running it past her.

[speciale]

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I don't think it would ever fly. most guys would rather have their other half handle it.

just my 2 cents


it might work in a gay wedding. both of the men are grooms

[toasty]

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Not a bad idea, that might be handy for some guys. It would have been nice to have had that when I was getting married, at least as to some of the wedding traditions, etiquette, ring purchasing advice, etc. -- stuff that you never think about as a guy except in the context of a wedding. I know it now, but I was flying blind at the time.

Something to keep in mind, though -- The Knot gets a lot of its traffic via the message boards with brides who are genuinely obsessed with the minutiae of the wedding process. I could certainly see guys using something like that as well, but not near to the same extent as the ladies. No matter what, our role is much more macro-level involvement as compared to the ladies. I know for me, my wife wanted me "involved," and I did what I could, but at the end of the day, the only input I had over things was veto power -- other than that, I learned it was easier to leave most things in her hands, because she wanted them there anyway. She'd pretend to ask my input and I'd pretend to give it, but we both knew who's idea we were going with. I'm sure not every guys' experience is the same as mine, but I'd be willing to bet that 90% are some variation of it.

The point is, most grooms don't have a reason to and probably don't want to spend loads of time on message boards vetting every single detail of their big day with other grooms. It's nice to have a sounding board and the message board thing should def. be a part of it, but you're just not going to see the same level of that kind of traffic as The Knot, IMO. With that in mind, you've really got to focus on the content of the site itself and make sure it includes lots of easy to find, easy to use information, particularly as to the tasks that we are normally given -- DJs & honeymoon, not mints and colors. I'd resist the temptation to be really comprehensive and instead concentrate on the parts of the wedding we are likely to take care of, to prevent it from being any more emasculating than it already is...

My $.02.

[thesightless]

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minutiae.

love that word

[toasty]

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love that word

post it here:

http://www.mercuryserver.com/forums/showthread.php?t=34167

[threehills]

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^^
Toasty, all good points and thats what I was thinking as well. It would be more of a site for ideas that the guy could implement/get credit for rather then a place to vent and rave on a forum like how they do on the knot. Example, I had no idea I was supposed to get my groomsmen gifts, or my parents as well. Hell, I didn't even know that I was supposed to get my wife a gift. A large emphasis would be on bachelor parties as well and managing a budget for a wedding. I don't expect to get rich off this idea, but I might be able to find a niche and make a few extra bucks each month.