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  • Steve Graham
    DJ Jelly
    • Jun 2004
    • 12887

    #16
    Re: Falling Apart

    ^^^ thats good advice mate... even though I was the one that left, it was one of the hardest decisions..
    but living near the water, and just being out there at night with the waves and all the other sounds just seemed to help put my mind at ease.. very grounding indeed

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    • Shiva
      MCast Mistress
      • Nov 2007
      • 2461

      #17
      Re: Falling Apart

      Originally posted by DIDI
      Look after yourself , do things that make you feel better , even just a little bit. You're on this site so we know music is important to you. Listen to music you love even if it makes you sad sometimes. But most of all it's your life. Live it!! Others can only share it.
      DIDI is totally RIGHT......M U S I C...!!!
      Music is therapy.....healing....spirituality...!
      Music is EVERYTHING and ANYTHING you want it to be at any given time...It is WITH YOU at good and bad moments in life....It helps when you're happy and when you're sad...
      IT HEALS YOU.....Try it....
      Just like DIDI said....even if it makes you sad...IT IS part of the healing!
      Remember EVERYTHING happens for a REASON....you will SEE that later...
      Anyway, we are here for you honey...you are NOT alone
      Kisses


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      • BureOne
        Are you Kidding me??
        • Jun 2004
        • 3285

        #18
        Re: Falling Apart

        yeah, just throw on your ipod and run, just run! and cry while you run, it will relieve some frustration and it'll feel good letting it out that way rather than soaking in some corner doing nothing.

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        • thesightless
          Someone will marry me. Hell Yeah!
          • Jun 2004
          • 13567

          #19
          Re: Falling Apart

          im still recovering from a situation simliar to this one. it sucks. but yeah, try and stay busy, get out and socialize when you are ready, but dont let getting ready take too long. sitting home for the next month wont be helpful, but i can see giving yourself a few weeks.

          just have fun when you feel its right. push forward. keep your life going.
          your life is an occasion, rise to it.

          Join My Chant. new mix. april 09. dirty fuck house.
          download that. deep shit listed there

          my dick is its own superhero.

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          • miketpoto
            Shabisquik The Ghetto Queen
            • Jan 2005
            • 4223

            #20
            Re: Falling Apart

            Sorry to hear hon.

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            • chanty
              John, John, where art thou!
              • Jun 2004
              • 4622

              #21
              Re: Falling Apart

              Aww...I'm so sorry Karen! I don't even know what to say. Maybe he does just need a little time to sort himself out. I know that I don't like to drag people down with me when I'm at a really low point. There are just some things you need to do on your own. Hopefully he'll figure it out and coming running back fulltiltboogie. Hugs for you sweetie!
              Awww...I didn't mean A holes, as in "A holes"...I meant it like, as in, my friends....

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              • feather
                Shanghai ooompa loompa
                • Jul 2004
                • 20898

                #22
                Re: Falling Apart

                If I may throw in my 2c ...

                I think your bf is in a bad place right now 'cos he obviously feels shit about himself, the lack of results, and on top of that, he feels guilty that you have to go through it with him.

                Maybe it's because he loves you too much that he feels you shouldn't have to do this. And a lot of it also has to do with his own insecurity. Sometimes, when you're in a hole like this, you lose sight of your priorities, you project your own insecurity or issues, onto your relationship and the people closest to you.

                It's easy to lump everyting together when nothing is working out, and he thinks he's doing the right thing by not dragging you through it, but what he doesn't realise yet is that love is unconditional and you chose to be with him though everything. So I'd say he's not leaving you because he doesn't love you, he's leaving you because he can't see that you're strong enough to stand by him, he's overcome by the dark place and the guilt.

                And sad to say, you can't do anything for someone like that. Gotta give him the space, let him work it out, let him get back his self-confidence and dignity, then he'll feel like he's ready to see you again.

                The scary thing is you not knowing what's going on, whether to hold on or to move on.

                But it won't do you good if he hung around in the state he is in, so in a way, he's trying to do the best thing.

                It's not so much about you moving on in a hurry or holding on desperately. It sucks, it hurts, but you still have your work, your life, and routine you do. Keep doing it, live your life, and hope he is doing good somewhere.

                At some point, you'll find the pain lessening or you will just move on with time without even realising it, just don't consciously try to. And in time, you either move on on your own accord, or he comes back. Who knows? Maybe when he returns, you'll also realise you've grown into a different person, and is at a place in life different from wher he is, and you might find yourself happy witht that.

                So chin up, it's fucked up, hell I've been in a relationship limbo for the past 7 years

                i_want_to_have_sex_with_electronic_music

                Originally posted by Hoff
                a powerful and insane mothership that occasionally comes commanded by the real ones .. then suck us and makes us appear in the most magical of all lands
                Originally posted by m1sT3rL
                Oh. My. God. James absolutely obliterated the island tonight. The last time there was so much destruction, Obi Wan Kenobi had to take a seat on the Falcon after the Death Star said "hi and bye" to Leia's homeworld.

                I got pics and video. But I will upload them in the morning. I need to smoke this nice phat joint and just close my eyes and replay the amazingness in my head.

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                • feather
                  Shanghai ooompa loompa
                  • Jul 2004
                  • 20898

                  #23
                  Re: Falling Apart

                  Man that was tough in my inebriated state, hehce the typo.

                  i_want_to_have_sex_with_electronic_music

                  Originally posted by Hoff
                  a powerful and insane mothership that occasionally comes commanded by the real ones .. then suck us and makes us appear in the most magical of all lands
                  Originally posted by m1sT3rL
                  Oh. My. God. James absolutely obliterated the island tonight. The last time there was so much destruction, Obi Wan Kenobi had to take a seat on the Falcon after the Death Star said "hi and bye" to Leia's homeworld.

                  I got pics and video. But I will upload them in the morning. I need to smoke this nice phat joint and just close my eyes and replay the amazingness in my head.

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                  • DancingQueen
                    AVB FanClub | President
                    • Oct 2005
                    • 4061

                    #24
                    Re: Falling Apart

                    Thank you everyone for your kind words, they all really mean a lot.

                    I just don't know what to do with myself at this point. I moved here to be with him and now he's leaving...I don't know if I should stay or go? I am just so confused right now....I hate this
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                    RIP Steve "Jibs" James - Your footprint is forever on my soul and in my heart xoxo
                    RIP Jeff Shewchuk aka DJ Jeff Taylor (day_for_night) - You will live on in my heart forever xoxo

                    Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.

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                    • Dhar_2
                      meat and potatoes
                      • Jun 2004
                      • 18923

                      #25
                      Re: Falling Apart

                      just sit tight.

                      dont do anything rash

                      just worry about yourself for now, the rest will follow!

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                      • feather
                        Shanghai ooompa loompa
                        • Jul 2004
                        • 20898

                        #26
                        Re: Falling Apart

                        Why should you go anywhere? Start building up your own life. It's probably too early for you to pack up and leave for a trip around the world :P

                        i_want_to_have_sex_with_electronic_music

                        Originally posted by Hoff
                        a powerful and insane mothership that occasionally comes commanded by the real ones .. then suck us and makes us appear in the most magical of all lands
                        Originally posted by m1sT3rL
                        Oh. My. God. James absolutely obliterated the island tonight. The last time there was so much destruction, Obi Wan Kenobi had to take a seat on the Falcon after the Death Star said "hi and bye" to Leia's homeworld.

                        I got pics and video. But I will upload them in the morning. I need to smoke this nice phat joint and just close my eyes and replay the amazingness in my head.

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                        • art71
                          Getting Somewhere
                          • Jun 2004
                          • 203

                          #27
                          Re: Falling Apart

                          Hang tough Karen! And don't do anything rash so soon. I recently found myself single again, my girlfriend of 12 years decided it was time for a change. So here I am. It will get better .

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                          • unkownartist
                            Banned
                            • Nov 2005
                            • 4146

                            #28
                            Re: Falling Apart

                            tbh i,m no expert on this but i did know just by talking to you on msn just how close u were to chris...tbh i dont know what to say coz i,m hopeless @ this.....just gotta keep ur head up and think that things will get better, they say times a great healer

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                            • Kat
                              A pretty fn good milkshake
                              • Mar 2006
                              • 4695

                              #29
                              Re: Falling Apart

                              aww dear karen i'm so sorry you are in this situation
                              i have no magic advice tho, i agree with everything posted so far
                              i do believe its a start of a new life for you even tho it may not seem so right now
                              talking about it does help also and i am glad to see this comunity responding and being here for you
                              big hug my dear
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                              Music is essential for the expression of non material ideals and energies. Music colors our surroundings with emanations from the highest vibrational fields. It allows us to escape all limitations in our thinking and very existence.


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                              • DIDI
                                Aussie Pest
                                • Nov 2004
                                • 16845

                                #30
                                Re: Falling Apart

                                Everyone is right, don't do anything rash yet. Whether you move or not will depend on which place is best for you. You are going to have to learn to be selfish When you do something now, the only one you have to consider is yourself!! Spoil yourself.!!

                                Btw where are you now, which country??

                                Shiva, that's pretty well the way I feel about music.
                                Originally posted by TheVrk
                                it IS incredible isn't it??
                                STILL pumpin out great set after great set...never cheesed out, never sold out, never lost his touch..
                                Simply does not get any better than Hernan
                                The 'club spirit' is in the soul. It Never Dies

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