How often do you have Random T**ugh,s

[dusk]

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For the handful of married members here:

The 9 Most Overlooked Threats to a MarriageKelly M. Flanagan

Food for thought.

[dusk]

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On that thought...

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[floridaorange]

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The hoverboard is now real and it may save us in an earthquake - CNET

[KiwiTollway]

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start listening to cool/upbeat mix
post it on ms
worse song ever comes on
next 2 songs, disastrous
edit post in slight panic


thankful for ability to edit!!!
lesson = post only after hearing entire mix
calling it a night

[KiwiTollway]

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For the handful of married members here:

The 9 Most Overlooked Threats to a MarriageKelly M. Flanagan

Really liked this well-written article & so many good points. The "marry someone for who they are determined to become" is weird advice, imo. Hard to know exactly what anyone will become even with determination because of all the reasons stated; life is messy, determination wanes, change is inevitable, balancing is difficult, life is long and "becoming" can be surprising; some people don't & can't synchronize with who their marriage is causing them to become, which causes pain. Paradigm shifts are also inevitable. No one knows the future.

I have a friend who was raised Catholic and didn't live with her husband before marriage (of course) and she realized her spouse had a habit of going out to bars after dinner and drinking for hours. He continued to do that after she'd fallen asleep each night. She had no idea she'd married an alcoholic because he hid his 'secret night life' so well while they were dating. She's still married to him, had two kids too.

People are hard to understand sometimes; we all have unique turns, curves, and pot holes in our journey to who we'll eventually become. Sometimes things work out just right, other times divorce is a card you're dealt against your will. No one gets married ever believing they'll get divorced... yet it happens so often. It's okay & sometimes it's an unexpected part of one's journey to knowing oneself better. For others, they get to know themselves within marriage, both are ok, imo. The point of life is growth/expansion of your being & helping others with theirs along your way.

We vowed to never speak the D word from day 1; surely we've both thought of it throughout the years. Focusing any energy in that direction is dangerous, I've always thought. Focus on love, understanding & appreciating (communicating within those) and life/marriage will be full of it. That's not so simple.

Just a few of my thoughts. Anyway, great article, thank you for sharing it!!!!!

[Hoff]

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[KiwiTollway]

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^^ is that a random thought? lol

I read this today...........

"The mind is always seeking stimulation. We stimulate ourselves at the grosser levels with things like drugs, porn, junk food, violence; all the things that create instant stimulation but then leave us feeling unhappy afterwards.

We stimulate ourselves through emotional drama, through worry, through fear, through arrogance.

Even being involved with our thoughts is a form of stimulation. All of these things and many more excite our ego mind. We taste a brief joy that makes us feel good and it also distracts us from the mundane nothingness of this moment.

The problem comes that we have stimulated ourselves to the point where we are unable to experience what we are beyond the gross level of experience to the point where most of humanity
denies real spirituality even exists. And even if they do, it is only in belief. And a thought of a pink elephant does not make a pink elephant real.

But when we are able to be free of all of the stimulation & distractions, we start to become still enough & clear enough to feel what we truly are. We begin to feel the wondrous unconditional peace & bliss that is life itself.

But in order to do so, we have to be willing to be present in this regular mundane moment of nothing; without stimulation. We have to be willing to feel this moment completely. You move through a particular state of insanity in order to do this. Everything you are avoiding will come up. The mental, the emotional, the physical will all come to the surface.

And when that is done, you still come face to face with your own mundane nothingness and have to feel that too. (Before the nothingness reveals itself to be fulfillment itself.) There is no getting around that. It is one reason divine energy is so important.

Because it could be said to be a stimulation, but it is the stimulation of bliss that you are at your essence. It is not putting something on top of this moment to distract you. It is awakening you to what is here at the core.

And if you taste the bliss of this moment then you are willing to go through a little insanity to have more of it."

K Mazuy (composer/musician)

[DIDI]

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You haven't quite got the gist of this random thought thing have you ?? Maybe you could start a thread for "Not so random thoughts "

[KiwiTollway]

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uh, huh!!! have a natural adversity to starting threads, can't help it.
difficult for me to be the last post in a thread too. idk why

ahhhhh, issues! lol

[Krystyan]

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girl got issues

[KiwiTollway]

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thanks Krystyan!! Everyone does, I just happen to admit them.

[floridaorange]

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The "marry someone for who they are determined to become" is weird advice, imo.

If you "click" on that sentence you quoted, she explains what she means:

In marriage—and in life—you control you. No one else.
Which means the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with had better be eternally interested in taking a look at their own issues, increasingly willing to be vulnerable about their own brokenness, and absolutely determined to figure out what it means to love more deeply and purely.

[KiwiTollway]

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You can click on the sentences? I missed that. thanks! will have a look

[KiwiTollway]

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the rest of my thoughts on that article are belief-system oriented and probably inappropriate to state here.

[Illuminate]

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Pole Folder - Digweed protege or successor?