How often do you have Random T**ugh,s

[floridaorange]

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My good friend and his gf have lived together for years, and it seems to work great for them, whatever works, at the end of the day, it's all about love, respect, forgiveness and mostly commitment. good talk, and respect to you too bro.

[KiwiTollway]

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^.....we have funerals, marriages, graduations and so forth. They mean something to some people. They mean nothing to others. And that's fine. To me and my family, marriage is a sacred thing.

[diegoff]

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if you have any problems, just put The Soft Parade and disappear into meditation mode

good words, man

[sbando]

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Put on Oakenfold - Global Underground '96 and fuck with the rest.

"I really don't care anymore
About all the Jim-Jim's in this town
And all the politicians makin' crazy sounds
And everybody puttin' everybody else down"

[trick12]

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learn to swim, flush it all away

[sbando]

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Yeah, right.

[Hoff]

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[floridaorange]

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stoned kitty takes a cat nap

[Hoff]

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^the same could be said for a college diploma, drivers license, certification. Humans are ceremonial, we have funerals, marriages, graduations and so forth. They mean something to some people. They mean nothing to others. And that's fine.

and ofcourse the whole that,

i said what i said also because this " Marriage is a more ideal circumstance for living together in my humble opinion "


should not be any difference i feel, just real love which i think is very uncommon in the real far far way,


but it is also important try to not judge anything or anyone, i understand what you meaned but i think there is no more ideal or not ideal if you are married o whatever story



ideal is to be real people, real always, and in whtaver situation that appears on the road , accept and let go, as fast as possible always

[floridaorange]

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Sure my man, the far love fairytale is beautiful and I actually agree with that being very important, but if you add a baby and mortgage and so on to the mix, that commitment made before God and both families starts to be more vital. And since a life partner was partially about having kids for us, marriage was the natural next step.

I tell people all the time, relationships or living together or even marriage isn't actually that difficult or anything. But add kids to the mix, and it gets tricky and far from simple or easy. That marriage part can keep a family unit in tact when the shit hits the fan, and it will. That is, if you are both committed to the work.

[trick12]

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i understood nothing!

[KiwiTollway]

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ideal is to be real people, real always, and in whatever situation that appears on the road accept and let go, as fast as possible always

^^THIS!!

Some think of marriage as a term indicating ownership or as a conventional institution, and they're not into any of that as "ideal," understandably. Love is love; there are many forms of it.

But like I'm always telling my kids as they're dating and I hear so much "I don't have him/her anymore; I really want him/her" and it's like "Yea, but you can't 'have' anyone as in 'own' anyone, so let that idea go." Everyone, married or not, is free to leave anytime, commitment or not, in all relationships we're free human beings (unless in actual bondage, of course). The only person we really have is ourselves.......... to give to whom we'd like, still free to leave anytime. Make peace with that first, you only have yourself to own.

People can be in a marriage (with or without kids) and really be, for the most part, already "gone" because not much love is shown.

At times I've felt my hubs is 'gone' and we have conversations like "if you're gone, make it real and just go, so I can go love somewhere else." Commitment + love make him stay I guess... not necessarily "marriage." We're at the point having been married for so long, if the marriage ends, it was still a great success story. but anyway, it won't because there is love, for now. For "now" is really the important focus.

Love is a choice at times; love is a commitment other times; love is a feeling occasionally; love endures difficult times, but it's always a choice. Marriage, or any relationship where you're not actually free to leave, is without love, and is bondage/suffering. And isn't making someone want to stay the fun part?!!! lol Make it fun!

On that note, Happy Valentine's Day weekend!

[Hoff]

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Sure my man, the far love fairytale is beautiful and I actually agree with that being very important, but if you add a baby and mortgage and so on to the mix, that commitment made before God and both families starts to be more vital. And since a life partner was partially about having kids for us, marriage was the natural next step.

I tell people all the time, relationships or living together or even marriage isn't actually that difficult or anything. But add kids to the mix, and it gets tricky and far from simple or easy. That marriage part can keep a family unit in tact when the shit hits the fan, and it will. That is, if you are both committed to the work.

but "marriage" has nothing to do with giving love to a child, real love is to give a real bond between parents, everything else is just a fact that has nothing to do with real Love, it's just anecdotal data


i donīt know if bond is the correct translation



also, traditional education has nothing to do with giving real Love to a child, absolutely nothing, it's just an education to control - cutting creativity and generate another asleep product of the system

based on a scoring system totally perverse for a child, all that garbage education system has expired . .. but people still sucking because most people are totally disconnected from their inner wisdom



Fortunately there are other ways, and many parents awakening from unconsciousness

[KiwiTollway]

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Hubby took me to this yummy place yesterday, Japanese, called "Shabu Shabu" which means swish swish. It was so fresh and delicious & fun as well. (If there's one in your city, I recommend it.)

Then we had chocolate-covered strawberries. He got me a blue orchid on a heart-shaped trellis with a red bow. And we watched the sunset at a very quiet, secluded park beside an extremely still lake, so gorgeous!

did you have a nice one?

[KiwiTollway]

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.... it's just an education to control - cutting creativity and generate another asleep product of the system

based on a scoring system totally perverse for a child, all that garbage education system has expired . .. but people still sucking because most people are totally disconnected from their inner wisdom

Do you homeschool Hoff?