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[Kamal]

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Bit of tough love here . Pipey, You are whining !! . You are not listening here either , you keep going "but, but "

that's what I meant by the heart having an illogical mind. When you truly hurt for someone, it's a headless chicken story. You run around looking for advise because you can't think straight and at the same time you end up not listening to any of the advise you do get because you want your lover back so bad.

You Pipey seem to be truly in love sir. A double edged sword that's destined to stab just as bad as it makes you feel good. The unfortunate part about love in the present times is that no two people truly truly love each other with the same emotional magnitude and this why a lot of the people (the one's more in love in a relationship) end up with incredible scars for life.

Like I said, keep your chin up, do what YOU think is right, and move on with your life for better or for worse. I know I sound like a negative Dr. Phil but shit mate I know what you feel, I've walked down this path once before and felt like a chicken entree. I DO feel for you.

[DancingQueen]

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Sorry I am just seeing this now...I don't know what I can add that hasn't already been said as there has been a lot of good advice given already.

Pipey, as others have already said, you need to let her go and sort out her issues. As hard as it will be to see her walk out that door, you need to stay strong and let her go. If she is having issues, however little they may seem, she is the one that needs to sort them out.

When you love someone so deeply and purely, it is the hardest thing in the world to let them go, believe me, I know. When Chris walked out that door almost a year ago, it was so painful that I didn't think I could go on at times, but somehow you find the strength and you do.

While she is out sorting her life, you need to continue with your own. You need to be out there living life for you and making yourself whole. When you are in a relationship, sometimes we lose sight of the little things that make us who we are as a person. Take this time to nurture and grow these things, so when you return to the relationship you bring back a more solid you.

While she is away, let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs to talk, etc., but just don't put your life on hold for too long waiting by the phone or waiting for her to sign on MSN, etc. I did this in the beginning and it makes it that much harder as you start to wonder what they are doing, who they are talking to, etc., which makes it that more difficult.

Finally lean on your friends, family, and even MS, whenever you need to. It helps more than you can imagine. I couldn't of gotten through last summer without these people, and I am forever grateful to everyone who was there for me.

I am here if you ever need to talk as I am sure many of us on here are. *hug*

[pipey]

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awww thanks guys and gals.... i have been through this shit before with a girl that i absolutely adored and i was ok - but i love this one WAY more...

anyway, we shall see... ill keep you all posted - thanks for being there even tho we are all a million miles away.

[DIDI]

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DQ , Beautifully said !! MS has great people

[Dhar_2]

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I am here if you ever need to talk as I am sure many of us on here are. *hug*

[dusk]

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Definitely feel a group hug right now

[floridaorange]

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If all else fails tell her you are holding your breath and holding down tttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt until she comes back.

[threehills]

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Simple solution....

[floridaorange]

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^where on earth is that from?

[threehills]

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Black Snake Moan....pretty good flick featuring Samuel L. Jackson and Christina Ricci (above)

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0462200/

[dusk]

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Did not recognize Christina Ricci in that at all...

[floridaorange]

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Hmm, so he's actually trying to do her a favor by keeping the chain on her, evidently from the trailer (preview).

[srbbnd]

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It is all one giant fucking test. Better not screw up the test either. My ex-girlfriend decided she wanted to move out after being together for two years. I was like WTF, but I thought I should let her have her space. I didn't want to be that cray ex-boyfriend so I just went with the flow. However, a few months later we are hanging out and we get into a crazy argument. She said I didn't fight for her and if I really loved her I would have asked her not to go, which I did, but she said I didn''t try hard enough in keeping her. She said she couldn't believe how laid back I was and how that meant I didn't love her. Now we are in some crazy limbo and I feel like every move I make, every phone call, etc. is like one giant chess game. But ya...if I were you and if you really feel strongly about her I would tell her how you really feel. Unless she left, because your are just way to needy...Then you should give her, her free space. One big test... girls are crazy...don't screw it up...

[floridaorange]

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^that's because she's crazy. lace up your running shoes tight and run...

in all seriousness some people are more prone to drama than others, its just their nature. If you don't like the games and tests, find a chick who is more mellow, they're out there, and plenty of'm too!

[DIDI]

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It is all one giant fucking test. Better not screw up the test either. My ex-girlfriend decided she wanted to move out after being together for two years. I was like WTF, but I thought I should let her have her space. I didn't want to be that cray ex-boyfriend so I just went with the flow. However, a few months later we are hanging out and we get into a crazy argument. She said I didn't fight for her and if I really loved her I would have asked her not to go, which I did, but she said I didn''t try hard enough in keeping her. She said she couldn't believe how laid back I was and how that meant I didn't love her. Now we are in some crazy limbo and I feel like every move I make, every phone call, etc. is like one giant chess game. But ya...if I were you and if you really feel strongly about her I would tell her how you really feel. Unless she left, because your are just way to needy...Then you should give her, her free space. One big test... girls are crazy...don't screw it up...

That's your girl, I don't believe it's his!! They are engaged!