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**Miroslav** · April 29, 2009, 08:25:11 PM

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Originally posted by srbbnd

It is all one giant fucking test. Better not screw up the test either. My ex-girlfriend decided she wanted to move out after being together for two years. I was like WTF, but I thought I should let her have her space. I didn't want to be that cray ex-boyfriend so I just went with the flow. However, a few months later we are hanging out and we get into a crazy argument. She said I didn't fight for her and if I really loved her I would have asked her not to go, which I did, but she said I didn''t try hard enough in keeping her. She said she couldn't believe how laid back I was and how that meant I didn't love her. Now we are in some crazy limbo and I feel like every move I make, every phone call, etc. is like one giant chess game. But ya...if I were you and if you really feel strongly about her I would tell her how you really feel. Unless she left, because your are just way to needy...Then you should give her, her free space. One big test... girls are crazy...don't screw it up...

That's emotional manipulation at its finest! Sounds like the kind of person who will manage to "get you" no matter what you do - and it really has to do with issues inside them, not you. I'd steer clear and move on...

**Dhar_2** · April 30, 2009, 03:27:35 AM

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more like run for the hills! she be a crazy lady!

**pipey** · April 30, 2009, 07:12:10 AM

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i really have no idea what is going to happen... who knows, its the first night that she is staying there apparantly, but she may change her mind... i had to be all like "look, please make a decision, either go or stay..." in a nice way, and shes like, yeah , i have to go an see how i feel... sigh. oh well... who the fuck knows.

**Kamal** · April 30, 2009, 07:14:30 AM

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email her a link to this thread. she'll know how much you feel for her.

**Dhar_2** · April 30, 2009, 08:06:51 AM

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^probably not the best idea.

she'll think you cant think for yourself!

**DIDI** · April 30, 2009, 08:24:30 AM

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She probably knows that already

But it's still not a good idea, she may not like you spreading her personal life all over a public forum

Don't worry, we can keep secrets

**feather** · April 30, 2009, 08:36:57 AM

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I don't get it, what kind of problems does she have that entails her moving out after you got engaged? You mentioned her wanting to meet new friends and getting her finance sorted? Are those the issues you see or are they what she told you, cos they don't sound like they're grounds for moving out.

I mean, if I got engaged to a girl, and she told me she needs to move out cos she needs to meet new people and get her finance sorted, I would seriously wonder where she is in life and why she agreed to the engagement in the first place.

Do you think this engagement is freaking her out now that she's had a long time to think about it? Could she feel she's not ready for it hence her need to get 'other shit in her life' sorted?

**pipey** · April 30, 2009, 09:27:25 AM

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Originally posted by feather

I don't get it, what kind of problems does she have that entails her moving out after you got engaged? You mentioned her wanting to meet new friends and getting her finance sorted? Are those the issues you see or are they what she told you, cos they don't sound like they're grounds for moving out.

I mean, if I got engaged to a girl, and she told me she needs to move out cos she needs to meet new people and get her finance sorted, I would seriously wonder where she is in life and why she agreed to the engagement in the first place.

Do you think this engagement is freaking her out now that she's had a long time to think about it? Could she feel she's not ready for it hence her need to get 'other shit in her life' sorted?

possibly, but im not sure that us is the problem... thing is, she needs more indipendence i guess, its probably a good thing to be honest, even tho its hard. I think that one of the things is that she cant see the forest from the trees, if shes unsure whats wrong with her life, then maybe this will make her see that she either wants to be with me or she doesnt... or maybe, she wants to be with me, but get her own place for a while... she moved straight out of her parents house to my house when we started living together, and she dosent really know how to do alot of thigns - thats why it may be good for her to try and get a place - that way she can maybe appreciate all the things she had and things might not seem so bad... heres hoping anyhoo.

**chanty** · April 30, 2009, 09:48:45 AM

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Hmm...may I ask how old she is?
Just doesn't seem like good enough reasons to want to move out. Those issue's are solvable and not that "urgent" to warrent moving out imo.
I wonder what the real reason for her decision is?
Best of luck to you Pipey!

**speciale** · April 30, 2009, 02:33:06 PM

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did you give her an engagement ring?

**GAVIN.MCAVOY** · April 30, 2009, 02:42:45 PM

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Best just to wait and see wot she wants to do,they are a strange being the female of the species.Eventually she'll come back cuz they cant live without us

**DancingQueen** · April 30, 2009, 06:15:30 PM

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Originally posted by pipey

i really have no idea what is going to happen... who knows, its the first night that she is staying there apparantly, but she may change her mind... i had to be all like "look, please make a decision, either go or stay..." in a nice way, and shes like, yeah , i have to go an see how i feel... sigh. oh well... who the fuck knows.

It seems like you have done all you can for now. I hope things work out for the best and she realizes what she has as you seem to care for her an awful lot, and love like that is hard to find....

Hang in there and remember we are all here for you *hug*

**pipey** · May 1, 2009, 10:44:10 PM

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so, had a chat to her last night, turns out that she is miserable at her parents house too - I so knew this would happen... as is so typical, her phone ran out of battery just as we were in mid conversation making headway - and her charger is at my house!

anyway, maybe we catch up tonight, cos i dont think her experiment is working...

ill keep you all posted = thanks for the advice ms

**pipey** · May 1, 2009, 10:49:27 PM

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Originally posted by speciale

did you give her an engagement ring?

well, i would have, but we had discussed this before, and shes not into jewellery at all - shes a bit of a tomboy to be honest at times, shes a jeans and hoodie kinda girl, but she always wears this one ring that i gave her on our 4th anniversary and we had talked about engagement rings, and shes just not that into them. She hates the fact that people spend thousands of dollars on a ring... she sees it as wasteful when there are so many poor in the world... shes kinda greenpeacy if you know what i mean lol = we were laughing cos shes the kind of chick who would take it off for a moment and forget where it was and find it down the back of the stove or something a year later.

but when i proposed, her answer was genuine - she definately loves me, i have no question of that.

**coliver1980** · May 1, 2009, 10:52:34 PM

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Make sure she calls for her charger lol!!

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