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[Shpira]

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Chin up mate...we have all been there. Worst things have happened to people. She is not your first or last...stay strong and as Kamal said a change of scenery will certainly do you good. Focus on finding yourself and improving yourself do not go into self destruction mode...I hope you find yourself...cuz when you do you'll realize that she probably didin't deserve you. . .

[dusk]

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I have no distraction from this misery that works. Oh my fuck ms. I'm actually going out of my
mind. I I'm literally freaking out. I can't believe this is happening

Unfortunately no amount of distraction will really work... but if you can certainly do something good for yourself like going to the gym etc like mentioned before.. stay clear from self - destruction... What worked for me - at nights when it gets really bad - put on your headphones and listen to some of your favourite dj sets or any music you LOVE.. you will eventually fall asleep and the mornings will start getting better over time.

Also in total agreement with the change of scenary bit if you can.

[PROG]

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so i went out tongith to a club, and she was there too - she threw her arms around me and said that she loves me and doesnt want to be with anyone else... but then, she didnt want to kiss - guess friends dont kiss... was pretty weird. i went out for a smoke and when i got back, she was gone... she was hanging out with her friend who was pretty trashed tho, so maybe she took her home... sigh. its a total mindfuck.

mindfuck is right. you start to think about why,what,how etc. all the emotional crap start clogging up in your head, then thats when you need to get out of the house. talk to one of your closest friend about it. and remember that theres other people that been in worse situations. it helps to think that. gl man your not alone trust me.

[floridaorange]

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If your up for a movie and feel like feeling the emotions, watch the movie Swingers. It's a comedy about how your friends perceive the breakup and the series of emotions you are going through and yet to go through. Have you seen it before?

[feather]

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Aaaargh. Ms I am so miserable. I'm not trying to be all complainey but I'm so lonely without her. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I have smoked a 1/2 ounce of weed and 10 packs of camels and taken a bunch of naughty salt and vitamin tablets since Friday. I can't stop crying I have been shaking. I can barely type this. I don't even know why I'm posting this. Life without her seems so one dimentional. I have no distraction from this misery that works. Oh my fuck ms. I'm actually going out of my
mind. I I'm literally freaking out. I can't believe this is happening

Hey dude, no one should ever make you feel like that. It's gonna be a downward spiral from here and you need to step back. If she doesn't know what you're going through, let her know how much she means to you. Maybe she does or maybe you think she does, but maybe you need to express it explicitly.

Or maybe she does know and it doesn't hit her as much, do you really want to be her still? A relationship can become unbalanced, maybe you love her more than she loves you, which seems to be the case. I mean, clearly, she thinks her issues are more important than your commitment together. I would think once a couple decide to be together, they make their life work together. She's cut you out of that equation and decided to sort her shit out on her own.

On the flip side, if you really think she's the one, this could well drag on indefinitely. I'm speaking from experience. I met my girl in 2001, we've broken up three times, but she's the one. We keep in touch and we talk about being together but there are always some circumstantial issues. She has family issues, we're in different countries right now, I've asked her to join me but she has had difficult finding work in the past so I'm hoping the work issue will be eased with the work experience she is accruing now; the shit just goes on and on.

But she's the one for me and I or we always talked about being together eventually and I kinda just assumed that this will happen because it's like knowing what's right and this feels right. So I've resigned myself to this situation, but it's my choice after much deliberation.

I know the typical advice is it gets better and you move on, but sometimes when you feel this way about somebody, you tend to wonder why move on. I mean, you spend the better part of your life fucking around and drifting and then all of a sudden this is it.

The question you have to ask yourself is, is this it? I've had close to 8 years to try to work this out, and I think my girl and I have an understanding now. But you're freshly broken up and maybe some time away from her and the relationship will help you work it out too. Is she important enough that you want to potentially commit yourself to a limbo while she works things out? You might think that now, but you will be surprised once you've had the chance to really consider this from a distance.

Ultimately, if this is really it, then why the fuck are you fucking yourself up? Gather yourself and soldier on. Whether she decides to come back to you or if you meet somebody else today, you will be in no state to be with anyone the rate you're going.

Depression and desperation is not appealing at all bro.

[pipey]

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If your up for a movie and feel like feeling the emotions, watch the movie Swingers. It's a comedy about how your friends perceive the breakup and the series of emotions you are going through and yet to go through. Have you seen it before?

my favorite movie since i was 16 lol - i have thought of what rob says every time i have broken up with anyone "some days you wake up and it hurts a little bit less, then one day it doesnt hurt at all"... thats good advice

[pipey]

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thansk for the advice MS - i think that the drugs are definately not going to help me - i think it was more of a mate wanting to make me feel better, but twas only chemicals and not reality. When i met my ex, i was a daily user of crystal meth for at least 3 years, it cost me my business, it cost me my friends (my good mates - 1 killed himself, 1 went through rehab and jail basically, 1 is on probation etc) and it nearly cost me my life...

I gave it all up for her in the blink of an eye.

Im not going back there, cos i have alot more riding on life now, but man its so super tempting... as sucky as it is to say so, the pipe doesnt reject you... but the world that goes along with it can seriously make you fucked up.

GAH! i think the weed helps a little tho, but thats not a drug

"nah man, i dont do drugs - just weed" Dave Chapelle

[Haziel]

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If your up for a movie and feel like feeling the emotions, watch the movie Swingers. It's a comedy about how your friends perceive the breakup and the series of emotions you are going through and yet to go through. Have you seen it before?

I was about to recommend you that same movie .

I was in this situation like 8 years ago . it took me a lot to get over her but in the end I understood that a change was needed in me. I look back at it and feel extremenly happy that she left me , she actually did me a favor . I could have not done or lived the wonderful things that I have experienced if I would still be with her.

All I can say mate is Mourn her and cry all that is needed ,let it all out then when you are done ... try to do a major positive change in your life and yourself, change every routine that you have being following for the last years , try going into something like a hobby or art that you always wanted to learn but you were afraid to try it or didn't have the time to do it , at times like this is when experiencing new things take a true value.

keep your mind busy mate move on , open a new circle of friends possibilities are endless at this moment , move to another place, feel it deep in your bones that a new Sun is rising .

when years go by you will realize that this change was necessary .

[Shpira]

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well said

[floridaorange]

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my favorite movie since i was 16 lol - i have thought of what rob says every time i have broken up with anyone "some days you wake up and it hurts a little bit less, then one day it doesnt hurt at all"... thats good advice

Got me through a breakup, that and listening to the band Finch and working out 2 hours a day, lol

http :// en. wikipedia. org/ wiki/ What_ It_ Is_ to_ Burn

[dusk]

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Sorry if this is off topic but I loved "What is to Burn" listenend to it endlessly.

[floridaorange]

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^hahahaharight-f'ing-on, few albums have I played from start to finish at the gym as I did that one^^fueled by a breakup; and being fairly new to the city I was living in I suppose.

[DIDI]

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It's always been the music that gets me through it .

[DancingQueen]

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thansk for the advice MS - i think that the drugs are definately not going to help me - i think it was more of a mate wanting to make me feel better, but twas only chemicals and not reality. When i met my ex, i was a daily user of crystal meth for at least 3 years, it cost me my business, it cost me my friends (my good mates - 1 killed himself, 1 went through rehab and jail basically, 1 is on probation etc) and it nearly cost me my life...

I gave it all up for her in the blink of an eye.

Im not going back there, cos i have alot more riding on life now, but man its so super tempting... as sucky as it is to say so, the pipe doesnt reject you... but the world that goes along with it can seriously make you fucked up.

GAH! i think the weed helps a little tho, but thats not a drug

"nah man, i dont do drugs - just weed" Dave Chapelle

Definitely don't go down that road again....it won't make anything easier.

Just take it one day at a time and like Kamal said, maybe get out of town with a good friend for a few days, or go and visit family. Surrounding yourself with people who love you will help. 1) its a distraction and 2) it reminds you that there are people out there who care a lot about you and love you.

*hug*

[feather]

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Listen to Al Pacino.