Arranged Marriage

[Haziel]

One of my friends from India is getting married with a girl chosen by his father and mother , he saw her pic and gave 2 thumbs up on it , she is actually pretty cute ...aaaaaaand she is also his cousin.

Personally I think to marry someone you don't know its kindda whack but I've also heard couples that have been together for a long ass time and they still don't really know the person they are with . Even though the idea of "hot cousin buttsex" arouses me I still cant get over the fact that it's arranged . I mean chosen by someone else just to make your life "complete" it reminds me of the time when my mom would buy me clothes ....they were shitty and didnt fit at all .

I told him to send me pics of their 2 headed kids

Anyways I just wanted to know what's GYY take on this .

[cohiba]

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Yikes. First cousin or more distant?

[Shpira]

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[Dhar_2]

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freshie off the boat inbreeding!

Kamal sound familiar?

[Kamal]

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freshie off the boat inbreeding!

Kamal sound familiar?

sure it does, I just read your biography.

Though the concept of arranged marriage has changed phenomenally since a few generations ago. When my grandparents were married, they were selected for each other based on the relatives meeting them and my grandparents didn't even know what the other looked like for 3 days until after the wedding (that's another story).

I myself have had an arranged marriage but it's not "arranged" in a way where my parents say marry this one and it's done. Both of us had the option of saying no. We did spend a little time getting to know each other before we made the decision. I had also met the entire family well in advance and communicated with both my brothers-in-law getting to know them well (both of them are diamonds).

See in Hindu culture, a marriage is not a union of 2 people but a marriage of 2 entire families. This is why it was important for the both of us to get to know both sides of the families as well.

Getting married to "cousins", there are different castes who do that and I'm sure in the more rural areas, it's more prevalent. Of course in the urban areas and metropolitan cities, it's a thing of the past.

[chunky]

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I used to work with someone who's parents where cousin's He was born with no neck and his fingers where joined togther.

[Dhar_2]

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for micko!

[Garrick]

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^ i think that picture should read "don't do meth" rather than what it does say.... gross.

banging your cousin... gross.

[88Mariner]

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To back up what Kamal said, my father always told me "you're not marrying the girl, you're marrying the family." Lots of truth in that one.

As for the arrangement of two families marrying their children, I think it could go either way depending on the intent of the parties. I think if one family is trying to raise their level in the caste system, then it could turn out to be really bad. BUT, if they're trying to arrange a marriage for their son or daughter with the interest of finding them a suitable and compatible partner, then I'm thinking those work out better.

[Funky Dredd]

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To back up what Kamal said, my father always told me "you're not marrying the girl, you're marrying the family." Lots of truth in that one.

So true! My wife is spanish and I can say first hand that I married the family. But that was a good thing for me as my family is always so distant with each other. Even though her family lives thousands of miles away I know them better than I do my parents now.

As for the arraignment I won't go either way as that is a culture thing (for a lack of better words). Being married to a spanish girl has definitely opened my eyes to culture. I was never one to make fun of a different culture but after being married for 15 years it sure has opened my eyes to it.

[Dhar_2]

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[picklemonkey]

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I actually know quite a few Hindi guys from work that are married to their cousins... it doesn't make it seem any less strange to us, but one of them told me it's something like 30% of all marriages

[Kamal]

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Kick that douche in the nuts who told you that. I cant believe more than 300 million Indians are married to their cousins. Absolute rubbish.

[floridaorange]

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^ signature line quote about "get carter" is awesome

[88Mariner]

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So true! My wife is spanish and I can say first hand that I married the family. But that was a good thing for me as my family is always so distant with each other. Even though her family lives thousands of miles away I know them better than I do my parents now.

As for the arraignment I won't go either way as that is a culture thing (for a lack of better words). Being married to a spanish girl has definitely opened my eyes to culture. I was never one to make fun of a different culture but after being married for 15 years it sure has opened my eyes to it.

AMEN! I just married into a russian family. I could have written the same exact thing and just exchanged spanish for russian and it would describe my experience thus far.