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  • liquidmesa
    Getting Somewhere
    • Aug 2007
    • 120

    So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

    As a graduation present to my friend who is graduating this December with a degree in international studies my friend's mom is paying for her and a friend to go to Paris and Amstersdam for a total of 8 days. My husband is not being supportive of this at all. I really want to go. Infact, I am probably going to go with or without his blessing, however I am wondering if anybody has any tips on how I should approach this situation.
  • skahound
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    • Jun 2004
    • 11411

    #2
    Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

    Can you give us any idea as to what angle your husband is playing by not being supportive? Is he typically a controlling guy? Is he jealous that you get to go and he doesn't? Have you ever done anything to cause him to not trust you?

    Sorry for the probing questions, but the answers to those will definitely help.
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    • liquidmesa
      Getting Somewhere
      • Aug 2007
      • 120

      #3
      Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

      I have never done anything to make him not trust me, and he generally is not a controlling guy. He is afraid that we are going to party, and be unresponsible and that someone is going to prey upon to American girls. I told him we are both college and street educated women, and that we will be aware of my surroundings. I also told him that the whole purpose of this trip is not just to party. We do plan a club night in each location, especially if a DJ we like is playing. I am not a naive person and neither is she. I dont know if he is more scarred of the unknown or if he is more jealous that I am going or what.

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      • liquidmesa
        Getting Somewhere
        • Aug 2007
        • 120

        #4
        Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

        We have been together for 10 years, and no major issues with our relationship to speak of. However, he knows that I like to party, and how I like to party and that is part of his concern.

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        • BureOne
          Are you Kidding me??
          • Jun 2004
          • 3285

          #5
          Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

          Maybe its the "way" you like to party that is now a real concern to him as you'll be miles and miles away. Potentially when one is far away..there might be temptations that can arise. Im not saying you'll cheat but it can cross anyone's mind in a situation like this.
          10 years is a long time to established solid trust.

          ..or it can be the Hostel or Taken movies that concern him!!

          All in all, he's probably more concerned for you safety really.

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          • ganjamo
            Platinum Poster
            • Jan 2006
            • 1373

            #6
            Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

            Dont panic, its organic.

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            • Funky Dredd
              Are you Kidding me??
              • May 2005
              • 3701

              #7
              Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

              If my wife said she was going to go for 8 days I would say go ahead and then I would start my party planning

              Seriously I wouldn't be able to throw a party because of the kids but I would enjoy my time alone the best I could within the guidelines of my marriage (sorry had to throw the disclaimer in there). I've been married for 15 years and I can see both your point of view as well as his (even though his is not stated). I am inclined to think he has your safety as a concern considering that you both trust each other and have been together for a while. If I was in your shoes I would sit down and talk to him in depth and find out exactly what his concerns are regarding this subject (yes he knows you like to party but is there another concern). One of the biggest issues in a relationship is the inability to talk to one another. I'm not saying that you two don't I'm just saying that communication can be big issue. I bet that it all boils down to your safety.
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              • diegoff
                Are you Kidding me??
                • Jun 2004
                • 3865

                #8
                Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

                it´s all about trust... I think he may not trust in you because he woudn´t trust himself if he was the one going 8 days away... or maybe cause you like partying very much and he knows you well... anyways, it´s about trust imo, and is something that you can only workout yourself (and himself).
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                • kassios
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                  • Jun 2004
                  • 1200

                  #9
                  Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

                  Did someone say Dam ?


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                  • skahound
                    Someone MARRY ME!! LOL
                    • Jun 2004
                    • 11411

                    #10
                    Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

                    Originally posted by liquidmesa
                    We have been together for 10 years, and no major issues with our relationship to speak of. However, he knows that I like to party, and how I like to party and that is part of his concern.
                    Not sure "how" you like to party, but unless you're only talking about drinking O'Douls (sorry, Kamal) and blowing noisemakers, then I'd say that anything you do is going to lower your senses (however slight that may be) and may cause you to lose your inhibitions somewhat. I'm not trying to justify your husband's concern here, but BureOne is right - you'll be thousands of miles away and he won't be able to just jump in a car and "rescue" you if you call.

                    On a related note: you sound fun. Can I come too?
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                    • Miguel
                      Are you Kidding me??
                      • Oct 2005
                      • 3182

                      #11
                      Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

                      tell him to take you instead, when he says he can't, there you go

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                      • Kamal
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                        • May 2002
                        • 28835

                        #12
                        Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

                        Originally posted by Funky Dredd
                        If my wife said she was going to go for 8 days I would say go ahead and then I would start my party planning
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                        • Kamal
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                          • May 2002
                          • 28835

                          #13
                          Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

                          Originally posted by skahound
                          Not sure "how" you like to party, but unless you're only talking about drinking O'Douls (sorry, Kamal)
                          those days are long gone, there isn't a leash long or strong enough to keep me from the hooch.
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                          Jib says:
                          he isnt worth the water that splashes up into your asshole while you're shitting
                          Originally posted by ace_dl
                          Guys and Gals, I have to hurry/leaving for short-term vacations.
                          I won't be back until next Tuesday, so if Get Carter is the correct answer, I would appreciate of someone else posts a new cap for me

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                          • skahound
                            Someone MARRY ME!! LOL
                            • Jun 2004
                            • 11411

                            #14
                            Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

                            Originally posted by Kamal
                            those days are long gone, there isn't a leash long or strong enough to keep me from the hooch.


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                            • floridaorange
                              I'm merely a humble butler
                              • Dec 2005
                              • 29116

                              #15
                              Re: So my friend invited me to go with her to Paris and Amsterdam...

                              `How old are you, how old is your friend and your husband? Do you and your husband party often i.e. drink more than a couple drinks in a party atmosphere (not home).

                              Out of curiosity, what college did you, your friend, and your husband graduate from?

                              It was fun while it lasted...

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