Falling Apart :(

[ddr]

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i agree with everyone here.

sounds like he is just trying to figure out what he wants to do. you just have to wait him out so that he figures things out.

if he really loves you, he will be back.

stay strong and keep your head up dq!

[buckman]

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Just out of curiosity even if he did come back would you take him back??? I mean I know you love him and all but damn thats a lot of emotional shit to go through. Then to have him come back as if nothing happened. If it were me and my gf did that to me I don't know if I would be so quick to take her back.
Either way i'm sure you'll do the right thing. Keep your head up and be strong. it sucks right now but as everyone else mentioned before it'll get better.

[Steve Graham]

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^^^ you bring up a good point mate. Every now and again I think and wonder if I made the right move, but I have way too much respect and love for my ex that I would never even think of trying to give it another go unless I was 100000% sure it was what I wanted.. I would never want to put her through any more hurt, pain and confusion than I already have.. and to have her in my life as a friend is something I never want to jeopardise

[buckman]

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^^^ Maybe its just me but I could never be a friend to an ex. If we ever went out in a social situation and my ex had a new man in her life I'd keep thinking to myself damn that should be me. Also wouldn't that be just a constant reminder of the hurt your going /went through??

[Steve Graham]

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whether your friends or not, the chances of seeing them out is the same right?

[buckman]

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ya i see your point there

[DIDI]

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Friends is better, although not for while, you don't want to take away from the good things you had.

[unkownartist]

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DIDI is totally RIGHT......M U S I C...!!!
Music is therapy.....healing....spirituality...!
Music is EVERYTHING and ANYTHING you want it to be at any given time...It is WITH YOU at good and bad moments in life....It helps when you're happy and when you're sad...
IT HEALS YOU.....Try it....
Just like DIDI said....even if it makes you sad...IT IS part of the healing!
Remember EVERYTHING happens for a REASON....you will SEE that later...
Anyway, we are here for you honey...you are NOT alone
Kisses

music is a stimulant, think about it, only in some occassion can music be used for a healing proccess, other times it just stimulants you in the wrong way which in turn will make you worse, i,m guessing here but if you think about music and a relationship then i,m guessing that 80-90% of that music has been assosiated with a conective point in that relationship


personally ( and curse @ me if u wish ) i dont think musical thearapy is the correct way to go here.....

karen stick to your close freinds and just let it all out

[threehills]

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My only thoughts to add...People commonly say you have to "get over them". There is this move to push them totally out of your lives, to try and erase your time together from memory. I know that's to make the pain less, but I think it's foolish. The reason you hurt so much is because you loved so much, and that's friggen awesome, it's what makes us human, what makes us alive. Things may seem impossible now, but "this too shall pass" as they say, and when you are done greiving, at the end of the day I think I would want to be able to remember all the amazing times you had to be able to say, yeah it didn't work out, but we had a pretty sweet ride along the way.


If that doesn't work, lots of regrettable sex with strangers is the ticket. And in that regard, we here at [ms] are here for you.

[DIDI]

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^^^

Red1, Music is all things It certainly doesn't have to be a stimulant. Remembering both good and bad times is part of healing. But I don't think we are actually proposing it as therapy.Although it has always is for me .We are not going to strap her down and make her listen to every Digweed mix ever made. [Hernan maybe ] Just suggesting that as it is important to DQ she might get something from it.

Hey Karen. If you decide to do that world trip, you know you have friends in many countries of the world. Should cut down on accommodation costs.

There are some wonderful contributions in this thread!

[simonr]

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There's the saying its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at the time. Regardless of what's gone on you'll have some memories that you can treasure and look back on fondly.

I genuinely hope it all works out for you .. in the meantime don't do anything too hasty - put one some music that's uplifting to raise your spirits. You could visit family and friends, they'll be there for at times like this, as we all at [ms] are.

[Shiva]

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If that doesn't work, lots of regrettable sex with strangers is the ticket. And in that regard, we here at [ms] are here for you.

^ MEN!

[spyros]

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well as someone said here everything happenz for a reason so if he left for whatever reason it just means he was not the one.
we still have loads of time to love and be loved from people who really worth it.sometimes though we are so blinded from this feeling that we cant see the obvious.
imo just try a few new things which will not remind you of what you were doing together.call a friend that you havent seen for ages and go to a cafe that you never been before.after sometime when you look back you will just laughing!

[unkownartist]

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absence makes the heart grow fonder <insert vomit here > or so they say

[DancingQueen]

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like red1 said...I just can't do the music thing right now....maybe in time....for the past 3 years I have been more involved in the music scene then I ever imagined because of dating him. I have tried listening to music, but right now all it does is make me think of him

Right now his brother is here with him moving his studio out to store at his parents place....this is so hard