Arranged Marriage

[floridaorange]

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wtf?

[trick12]

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he was probably pulling your leg and looks like he did a great job. what's his name? if you can't name him, tell me what part of the country he's from because this is the first time I've heard something like this.

im just sharing a story i heard from someone, i didnt believe it at first but i heard it again from another, could well not be true tho

[dig72]

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cousins?

LOL, even funnier than the story by trick12.

[Haziel]

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I hear Japan does this sort marriages as well .

I read all of your answers very carefully and I'm just surprised that nobody has brought up a very important matter...SEX

I mean if someone chose her for me how the hell will I now if she is good in bed ... what if she wont let me fist pump her on my wedding night ??? wouldnt that suck ?.... either sex is not that important when marriages are arranged and it is overlooked , not discussed because its still a taboo ? or its just not that important at all .


Anyways I just want to add that in my eyes this seems like an ancient tradition , that it was used by people from many years ago that lived in small villages and didnt have a town to meet other people, only the family 10 more acres down south. Also between sons and daughters in Royal kingdoms it was done just as a sign of truce,

Like i said before my friend saw her pic and since she was cute he said yesss ,that was it . they gave him the chance to choose and see if he wanted to find a mate by himself or the father/mother could do it . He chose the latter one considereing that he never had a gf in his life .... I'm pretty sure the only pussy this guy has ever seen was the house cat













Oh yeah pics

[funkykarma]

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its a whole different world, culture and education over there, they dont view cousins the way the west does, ive never been to india but i have lots of friends from there that i had met in dubai, def wanna visit esp after i read shantaram..

OK check this out, an indian guy came to work one day and he got sweets with him for everyone at work and he said that the reason was that him and his wife had just got a baby, so someone asked him how come you and ur wife got a baby and you haven't taken a vacation for over a year......... and he said my brothar iz there, he said that its a tradition that if the husband is not there its ok for the brother to sleep with his wife but here's the condition "only for child purposes"....i mean no offense to anyone and i know that India is full of deferent religions and beliefs and even languages so im not saying this is common but its a story i heard from more than a person..

I actually have heard that this practise does occur in rural Kerala

[Kamal]

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where have you heard that from? any sources? I'm from a state a couple of states north and I've never heard it even from the numerous keralites I have known back home.

[floridaorange]

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from wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage

India
Attitudes in India on cousin marriage vary sharply by region and culture. For Muslims it is acceptable and legal to marry a first cousin. But for Hindus it may be illegal under the 1955 Hindu Marriage Act, though the specific situation is more complex. The Hindu Marriage Act makes cousin marriage illegal for Hindus with the exception of marriages permitted by regional custom.[91] Practices of the small Christian minority are also location dependent: their cousin marriage rates are higher in southern states like Karnataka with high overall rates.[92]

Cousin marriage is proscribed and seen as incest for Hindus in north India. In fact it may even be unacceptable to marry within one's village or for two siblings to marry partners from the same village.[93] The northern kinship model prevails in the states of Rajasthan, Gujarat, Uttar Pradesh, Haryana, and Punjab. But in south India it is common for Hindu cross cousins to marry, with matrilateral cross-cousin (mother's brother's daughter) marriages being especially favored.[94] The southern kinship model prevails in the states of Kerala, Tamil Nadu, Karnataka, and Andhra Pradesh. South Indian women have been described as having more personal autonomy than North Indian women[95] and a kinship system leaving women closer to their families of origin and not based on patrilineal descent may explain both this and somewhat lower South Indian birth rates. In the exogamous north, a woman will not usually be in a position to help her family after marriage, since the house of her husband is likely to be far away. Female children are consequently less valued. In the South Indian system males are also likely to enter into arrangements that include males related by marriage, whereas in the north such relationships are more defined by blood ties.[96] But the higher the caste in south India, in general the closer the position of females is to that under the northern system.[97]

Practices in central India overall are closer to the northern model than the southern,[98] but differences exist from each. For example, in Mumbai, studies done in 1956 showed 7.7% of Hindus married to a second cousin or closer. By contrast, in the northern city of New Delhi only 0.1% of Hindus were married to a first cousin during the 1980s. At the other extreme, studies done in the South Indian province of Karnataka, which contains Bangalore, during that period show fully one third of Hindus married to a second cousin or closer.[99] Pre-2000 Madhya Pradesh, from which Chhattisgarh has now split, and Maharashtra, which contains Mumbai, are provinces that are intermediate in their kinship practices.

India's Muslim minority represents about 12% of its population (excluding Jammu and Kashmir) and has an overall rate of cousin marriage of 22% according to a 2000 report. Most Muslim cousin marriages were between first cousins, with the rate of first-cousin marriage being 20%. Muslim consanguinity in north India was typical, but below the overall northern statistic lies a sharply divided picture: Jammu and Kashmir is the only Indian state with a Muslim majority, with a Muslim consanguinity rate of 40%, while at the other extreme Haryana, though its population is 17% Muslim,[100] has a Muslim consanguinity rate of only 1%. This dichotomy may be a legacy of the partition of the sub-continent into India and Pakistan, when there was substantial Muslim migration to Pakistan from the eastern parts of the former unified state of Punjab. In south India by contrast the rates are fairly constant, except for the South Indian Malabar Muslims of Kerala (9%) who claim descent from Arab traders who settled permanently in India in the 8th century. Most Indian Muslims by contrast are the result of Hindu conversions to Islam in the 16th century or later. The lowest rate for a whole Indian region was in East India (15%). Consanguinity rates were generally stable across the four decades for which data exists, though second-cousin marriage appears to have been decreasing in favor of first-cousin marriage.[16]

[Kamal]

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yes but that article says nothing of a brother sleeping with his brother's wife.

[Steve Graham]

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^^^ it's also wikipedia, lol

[Kamal]

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i stopped short of saying that

[funkykarma]

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where have you heard that from? any sources? I'm from a state a couple of states north and I've never heard it even from the numerous keralites I have known back home.

Have a few Keralite colleagues out here, also from my sister's husband who is half Keralite, thankfully he doesn't have any brothers so no awkward predicaments there :-)

[Kamal]

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and these guys say in their villages, there are brothers making out with their brothers wives? wow today's the day trick and keralites will leave me speechless twice in the same day

[trick12]

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and that makes u a loser sir, not once but twice

[picklemonkey]

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K, that article said 22%

[Kamal]

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K, that article said 22%

The 22% is of 12% of muslims and so that's a pretty small number, even for muslims in India.
yea its very common in the Muslim world and even with Sindhis (another caste in India). I actually met a girl (a Sindhi friend of my wife) and she married her first cousin. stunner she was but she never did leave her family